Celebrate Bisexuality Day: Musings

September 23, 2009
Heidi Bruins Green

Heidi Bruins Green

As part of GLAAD's ongoing series of posts dedicated to Celebrate Bisexuality Day, we invited bisexual people to share their stories and talk about what today means to them. _________________________________________________ By Heidi Bruins Green The idea of Celebrate Bisexuality Day makes me smile. I imagine the section of Hallmark cards dedicated to sending greetings to the bisexuals in our lives.  There are the ones for parents to send their children, such as "You were always our surprising little bundle of joy!" that opens up to "We can't wait to meet your new girlfriend/boyfriend!"  Then there are the ones for siblings, "I'm sure glad you are my sister (or brother)," opening to "Please bring home a girl (boy) next time so the neighbors have something new to talk about!" The cards for work colleagues could be a little smarmy and politically correct, like "Thank you for thinking outside the box" followed by "You've really helped our team grow" or a little more honest "I'm glad you work here" and inside "Our co-workers finally have someone else to gossip about!"  And for your friends, fans, and partner(s) there is the cheering from the sidelines, "To a woman who charts her own path." and inside, "YOU ROCK!" I myself celebrate bisexuality every day, multiple times a day, in fact.  That is my own personal party, however, and I think having a Celebrate Bisexuality Day delivers the fun but firm expectation that we don't intend to be put up with, or tolerated, or allowed what is sometimes thought of as our instability as long as we keep quiet about it.  In the greatest tradition of taking pride in ourselves, we are inviting and expecting non-bisexuals to join in celebrating our lives along with us.  Curiosity and envy are understandable, and especially for Celebrate Bisexuality Day, we are happy to answer questions about how well our lives work. Heidi Bruins Green is an out and proud bisexual who actively seeks to educate both bisexuals and non-bisexuals about how our issues have many differences from those of gay men and lesbians, as well as unique from those of straight people.  She teaches workshops through Out & Equal Workplace Advocates, as well as working with individual company employee resource groups to actively engage with all their missing bisexual members.  Heidi lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her charming bisexual husband, their two dogs, and part-time kitten.  She can be contacted at hbgreen@earthlink.net.