October 12, 2012

In May of 1982, I was born as a Black child in Toledo, OH to two Black parents, both of whom are educators. In March of 2006, I officially became a member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Incorporated, as a sole line member of the Toledo (OH) Alumni chapter in the fraternity’s Northern Province region. On August 11, 2012, I married my beautiful husband, Paris F. Prince, in the backyard of our home in Worcester, Massachusetts.

Based on the recent controversy surrounding the beautiful wedding video of my fraternity brother Nathanael Gay and his husband Robert Brown, there are too many people in our country that find those basic facts of my life to be shocking. But for me, they are all important life moments that make me who I am. Nathanael Gay, who recently appeared on the Tom Joyner Morning Show, had to defend he and his husband’s wedding colors because people dared to falsely presume the colors mirrored the colors of the fraternity. However, as the newlywed aptly pointed out, our colors are crimson and crème, not red and white.

Alas, the wedding colors are beside the point. Why is it that a marriage between two proud and accomplished men of color generates such news controversy in the Black community?

GLAAD helped to pitch and place this story in Ebony.com.