Thought Catalog
August 19, 2013

My parents are gay. They had what was called a “commitment ceremony” before I was born. Marriage before baby is not only accepted in our society but what is expected. However as a homosexual couple my parents “commitment” to each other was not recognized as a legally binding “marriage” in the state in which they were born or the country that they call home. Because of that they are denied the same rights and privileges that heterosexual couples enjoy freely everyday, including the rights of a parent. The need for nationwide marriage equality and the end to unequal treatment to more than 130,000 same sex couples nation wide, according to the 2010 census, and an estimate 4 million homosexuals nationwide, according to The Huffington Post in April 2011, is long past due. We cannot become the country we profess to be if we continue to deny legal citizens legal and constitutionally protected rights, and then continue to dismiss the issue by calling apples, oranges.

The Defense of Marriage Act, more popularly called DOMA, was enacted September 21, 1996; President Bill Clinton signed it into effect.

DOMA defines marriage as the legal union of one man and one woman.

That means that our country under whose founding document, the Declaration of Independence, which states: “We hold these truths to be self-evident that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable right, that among them are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness,” is denying about 4% of its citizens their human rights.