Retired Army Col. Stewart Bornhoft wants to make sure he and his spouse, Stephen McNabb, can be buried side by side at Arlington National Cemetery. They want the same veterans health benefits as any other married couple. The San Diego residents, partners since 2000 and married in 2008, have a combined 35 years in the military. "It would be nice if we were not treated as second-class citizens," says Bornhoft, who graduated from West Point and did two tours in Vietnam before retiring in 1995. Tracey Cooper-Harris is seeking the same disability and death benefits for her spouse, Maggie, as if she were a man. If she dies first, Tracey wants to make sure that Maggie is the one presented the folded flag from her casket.