On my wedding day in 2009, I reflected on all my good luck, from finding a wonderful man to the clear, blue sky above. Everything I was grateful for amplified the day, except for one thing, which left me feeling pretty guilty: I was grateful to be allowed to marry this wonderful man. I'm not the only person to feel ambivalent about getting married when so many others cannot. The long list of celebrities vowing to abstain until same-sex marriage is legalized includes Girls' Lena Dunham and expectant actress Kristen Bell and partner Dax Shephard. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are engaged, but won't go any further; the two have donated large sums of money to the effort, including $100,000 to the Human Rights Campaign's marriage equality initiative.