Tiffany Peckosh & Meredith Soffrin have been together for six years. In 2010, over lunch at their favorite taco shop, they promised to spend the rest of their lives with each other. They live in Brooklyn and were married at the New York City municipal building on July 24, 2011. On Wednesday, they spoke to the marriage rally in New York City in response to the Supreme Court's ruling that section 3 of the so-called 'Defense of Marriage Act' was unconstitutional.
In 2007, when Tiffany and I first met, we could have never imagined that in this short time, within our lifetime, the movement for equal rights would have come so far. Even though there is still much work to be done, we are thrilled to know that there are amazing people like Edie Windsor who are able to stand as civil rights giants in our movement, and help push this country’s government toward fully respecting all of its citizens. This is an enormous victory and a joyous day for loving, married couples like us. We feel so grateful that we were able to stand alongside the folks who have been fighting this fight and speak at the rally on the day the decision came down. What a beautiful and moving moment in our nation’s history!
DOMA caused uncertainty for us as a couple. This ruling means that we can better protect each another and our future children because we will no longer be discriminated against in federal policies intended to support families. While there are many policies that will affect our relationship regarding taxes, medical laws and other legal issues, the most important thing to come from this decision is the fact that our union is now seen as equal to any other marriage in this country. Greater visibility for queer Americans is becoming a reality.
Tiffany and I met through mutual friends and hit it off immediately. A few months later, in the streets around Union Square, we ran into each other and it was at that chance moment that we knew that we had found something rare. We spent our first months together walking the city, especially romantic evenings in the West Village, right near Stonewall. The foundation of our personal history was laid right on the bedrock of the LGBTQ human rights movement where we rallied in celebration on Wednesday night. To be able to speak in front of the exuberant crowd in front of Stonewall was a tremendously humbling moment for us, and a moment of realization that we are not alone. We are not only standing on the shoulders of giants, but we are standing with so many others willing to work and fight for full human rights for all.
We got married almost two years ago on the first day it was allowed in New York in an understated and beautiful civil ceremony. We will be forever grateful to New York for allowing us to have that moment together, and to feel supported by the state in which we live. A few months later, we had a big Jewish wedding in Washington, DC and were able to share our joy with all of our friends and family. Being married has been the best thing that ever happened to either of us, and has brought us closer to each other and to each other’s families.
While we celebrate this victory, we realize that there is much work to be done. The work continues for full marriage equality for all Americans, as well as for often unseen issues like transgender protection. Thanks to this decision, we are well on our way to full equality and justice for all citizens of this country.
Tiffany & Meredith give an interivew to NBC Nightly News just after their wedding on the first legal day in New York, July 24, 2011.
Addressing the NYC rally for marriage equality, June 26, 2013
Meeting Kristin and Sarah, another couple GLAAD worked with to tell their story.