Actress Maria Bello (ER, Prime Suspect, Coyote Ugly) came out in a thoughtful personal essay "Coming Out as a Modern Family" she wrote for the New York Times "Modern Love" column published this weekend. In the piece Bello discusses her relationship with her partner Clare, what really makes a family, and her fears of coming out to her 12-year-old son Jackson.
Bello describes Clare as her best friend and "the person I like being with the most, the one with whom I am most myself." Bello's "large, traditional Italian-Polish Philadelphia" family was supportive, as was her son.
“So are you romantic with anyone right now?” he asked.
I took a deep breath, knowing that my answer, and his response, would have an impact on our lives for a very long time.
He was right; I was with someone romantically and I hadn’t told him. I had become involved with a woman who was my best friend, and, as it happens, a person who is like a godmother to my son. … I exhaled and finally said it: “Clare.”
He looked at me for what seemed like an eternity and then broke into a huge, warm smile. “Mom, love is love, whatever you are,” he said with wisdom beyond his years.