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Golden Globe Winner Mo'Nique Tells Black Gay Men, "God Loves You"

On Jan 25th episode of BET’s variety show, The Mo’Nique Show, host and Mo’Nique along with her guest, soul singer Miki Howard discussed numerous topics including sexuality, acceptance and the black church.

Howard said to Mo'Nique:

"One good thing I want to talk about is the gay aspect to our church. We don't talk about it in our community. I grew up in James Cleveland's church in LA and it was gay back then, really gay. And we weren't didn't know that people thought was bad, that outsiders thought that was bad. So that's one thing we talk in the church and explore, and how I came to be me."

Mo’Nique responded by saying:                    

I applaud you for addressing this ...because people don't want to talk about it and for not judging because most times we run from it. And for all of our gay brothas watching, we love you this is the no judgment zone. You are always welcome and you are always loved. If you're in the church and you're gay, God is not judging you. Be who you wanna be."

In the beginning of the show, Mo’Nique, whose film Precious is nominated for a GLAAD Media Award this year, also made a comment about African-American lesbians.

She said:

“Sistahs, if you are laying next to your man right now give him a kiss. Or next to your woman.. no judgments here, as long as you got somebody."

Watch the episode below (The segment  begins at around the 27 minute mark of the show)

Rod McCullom, head blogger for Rod 2.0: Beta, praised this episode and expressed why this type of dialogue is necessary:

It's about time someone mentioned on national television that the black church and black gospel music are "really gay" and they should not be ashamed. There are so many talented black gay men in the church and black gospel music. Unfortunately many are told otherwise and most believe they should remain (semi) closeted.

Given many of the struggles of acceptance that the black LGBT community faces in certain African-American churches, these types of conversations are much welcomed and needed. While GLAAD encourages people to sound off when the media gets it’s wrong, it is also important to praise those who get it right.

If you were touched by Mo’Nique and Miki Howard’s comments, please let The Mo’ Nique Show know by writing a letter to the following address:

The Mo’Nique Show

P.O Box 7868

Atlanta, GA

30357